Dating websites for cancer survivors
Yvette M., a 40-year-old advertising executive from Sydney who had a double mastectomy and went through chemo in 2010, says she tried out different strategies for telling her dates about her diagnosis.
"Honesty is my middle name, so it's not information I kept under my hat — or wig — for too long," she says.
"I think he roots for underdogs." Maisano says that some men definitely take their cues from the women they're seeing, so it's important to be strong and confident — regardless of whether you've survived breast cancer or not.
"If you're uptight and worried and negative and project all of those things about your cancer experience, they're naturally going to pick that up," she says.
"If you project that you love yourself, you're proud of yourself and you consider yourself a warrior and [believe that] you're amazing, that's how he'll view you, too." Jeff H., who saw Kara's cancer survivor status as a plus, agrees.
But what do you do if you're single and diagnosed with breast cancer?
And I said 'yes,' but then went on to explain the chemo to him," she recalls.
"He didn't write back." While other dates responded more positively when they were told up front about Yvette's diagnosis, she decided to stop sharing her cancer news until it was obvious there was some mutual chemistry going on.
"One of the thoughts that I had — especially after the surgery — was, 'Who's going to want to date me now that I have this thing?
'" says Dena T., a 44-year-old freelance writer from Austin, TX who went through a bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy after being diagnosed with breast cancer in September of 2006.
Hide under a rock until your post-chemo hair grows back?